Collaborative Divorce and Mediation
Welcome
Hello, I am Melissa Goodstein, a collaborative attorney and mediator practicing exclusively within the area of divorce and family law. I am here to be your personal advocate during this time of transition. My clients are ready to move on with their lives but want to end their current relationship with integrity and build the foundation to have a good relationship with their ex post divorce. I encourage you to contact me with any questions you may have or to schedule a consultation. Your new life is waiting, let me help you get there the right way.
Virtual Divorce and Family Mediation Services
Our office offers virtual divorce and family mediation services using video and telephone conferencing technology. Occasionally, clients live far apart from each other which poses significant logistical challenges whether clients are considering mediation or litigation. This distance may also have contributed to the decision to divorce. Sometimes health or safety issues preclude in-person mediation sessions. Other times, like due to the COVID 19 outbreak, in-person meetings are not possible given federal, state and local directives. Virtual mediation enables parties to participate and engage in the mediation process.
Melissa also uses Family Law Software enabling parties to enter data electronically to prepare statements of net worth including child support, spousal support and property division analysis. In this way, clients can input the data prior to a meeting focused on finances and the information can be shared during the mediation session. No court appearances or judicial intervention are necessary and all divorce papers can be filed electronically allowing parties to move forward with their lives in the most cost effective, private and dignified manner possible. In this way, assets and relationships are protected by mutually agreed upon terms. Meetings are scheduled by appointment at times most convenient for all parties.
For prospective new clients, the office of Melissa Goodstein offers a 30-minute free video or telephone conference to discuss the virtual mediation process.
Divorce Mediation
Divorce mediation is an alternative to courtroom litigation for couples contemplating the termination of their marriage. It gives divorcing or separating couples an opportunity to focus on planning their lives rather than worrying about the complexities of the judicial system. A mediator facilitates discussions in an impartial manner and helps resolve differences between the parties. The ultimate goal of the divorce mediation process is to establish agreement on all open issues. Once that is accomplished, a settlement agreement is drafted. Learn more…
Collaborative Divorce
Unlike mediation, which is facilitated by a single neutral third party, the collaborative divorce process requires that each spouse retain a specially trained attorney to represent their interests. In some cases, other professionals are involved as well, e.g., financial planners, child advocacy specialists, mental health professionals. Attorneys trained in collaborative divorce adhere to principles that promote non-court resolutions. They believe in the process because they know it can work without the hostility that often comes with litigation. Learn more…
Marital Mediation
Marital mediation is a viable alternative for couples who realize their marriage is in jeopardy and want help but one or both spouses are reluctant to commit to traditional therapy. A wide variety of issues can be effectively addressed through marital mediation. A couple can learn to identify and lessen disruptive behaviors and communication styles that can result in the preservation of their marriage. Divorce becomes an option of last resort rather than first resort for couples in unresolved conflict. Learn more…
“I’m divorcing, what do I do first?”
During an in-depth interview this question is addressed. We talk about the pros and cons of mediation, collaborative law, and litigation. Click / tap this link or the audio icon on the right to go to soundcloud.com to listen to this informative podcast.
- The Zen of an Uncontested DivorceHow you approach your divorce can be the difference between a traumatic experience and a transformative one. The Zen of an uncontested divorce is achieved by accepting and not contesting the end of your relationship as husband and wife. You came together by love in marriage and ending your marriage with love will help you both remain on good terms with your spouse, especially, if you have children as co-parents. The collaborative divorce and mediation models offer a supportive and nurturing […]
- Living Together During DivorceIn these tough economic times, many couples must continue to live together while they are negotiating their divorce. Such living arrangements can be quite toxic for the entire household creating lasting harm for each member of the household for years or decades to come. In order to deescalate the level of conflict I recommend to all my clients to consider alternative separate living arrangements preferably with one spouse moving out of the marital home or if that is not possible to create […]
- Timing is EverythingOften in my practice I have an initial consultation with a client about divorce and then I do not hear from them for a few weeks, months or even years. Surprisingly this is not unusual! One of the first questions I like to ask in a consultation is whether the couple has sought the support of a marriage therapist or an individual therapist to explore the issues that have adversely affected their marriage. For some this is something they have explored but for others it is a surprising suggestion […]
“Organized, well prepared and skilled at navigating through the mediation process. Explained all documents and legal terminology in understandable terms. Noticeable compassion during the meditation sessions.”
“I can’t say enough good things about my experience with Melissa as my divorce mediator. I would highly recommend her to guide you through this very sensitive, emotional and difficult time. Every session she was reliable, professional, neutral, experienced, thorough, warm and compassionate.”
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“My ex and I wanted to work together to find a divorce solution that best supported the well being of our family, so collaborative mediation made sense. We were thrilled that we found Melissa. She was professional, knowledgeable and thorough. She helped us work through all the details of our divorce in an organized and supportive fashion. ”
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“Melissa is a fantastic mediation counsel. She is super knowledgeable, very thorough, very honest, and most importantly has a good working relationship with many of her fellow counsels in the Westchester area.
She helped us get through the toughest of times with utmost patience and empathy. She always viewed us as individuals who were going through difficult times instead of clients she could make money from. She was always available to answer any questions or provide advise despite her busy schedule and worked relentlessly with her counterpart to help resolve conflicts, while trying her best to mediate and help avoid the litigation. path.
Although I would never wish marital separation on anyone, if you ended up needing a counsel, I would highly recommend Melissa. She is simply top-notch.”
“Divorce can tear a family apart; I know this from experience with my own parents’ divorce. When my husband and I split, I braced myself for the worst, but thankfully, we were able to keep relations fair and civil.
I feel incredibly lucky to have been referred to Melissa Goodstein as mediator. She was professional, knowledgeable, fair, patient, and above all, kind. She clearly explained both the process of mediation and the existing guidelines for points like custody and equitable property division.
Melissa’s fees were reasonable, and the process did not drag out and become overly expensive. At the same time, Melissa was patient at times when we needed to slow the process down for one reason or another.
The referrals she provided were very helpful, and for a reasonable fee she filed our court documents so we did not need to appear in court.
Throughout the process, Melissa always responded promptly to our questions. I would recommend her without reservation for any couple undergoing this process. ”
“I feel lucky to have found Melissa Goodstein to support both my ex-husband and I through an extremely difficult situation. I found her completely capable in managing the practicalities of the mediation as well as the overwhelming emotion in the room.
Our mediation maybe took a little longer than is typical and, in the end, she expedited the situation by having both review attorneys in the room at the last meeting. I found this an excellent and resourceful way to handle a mediation that was at risk of getting stalled.
Additionally, I found that Melissa always had the interest of both of us in mind during every meeting. She is informative, supportive and tremendously skilled at what she does.”
“For our divorce, we sought to work with a mediator and were led by another attorney's recommendation to Melissa Goodstein (in Katonah, NY).
We had heard that Melissa was an esteemed attorney and her expertise, organizational skills and talents were evident upon meeting her. The information she provided and tone she set made our process smooth and collaborative.
Melissa was accessible throughout our mediation and had wonderful attention to detail. We highly recommend her to others who are seeking a calm, capable and caring attorney and mediator.”